Red flags when dating a divorced man
In fact, I recommend avoiding men who haven’t been divorced for a full year and experts and therapists agree with this suggestion for good reason.These men are not healed from the trauma of separating and divorce and that takes time.Chances are you will meet some wonderful – and not so wonderful – men during your journey. He admits to having several children with various women. (especially if there are young children involved.) Dating Red Flag #5 – Where Does He Live?Your responsibility is to know exactly what you want in a man and to keep your eyes open for potential red flags. He spends money frivolously and likes to flash wads of money. You have been dating for a month or two and he has yet to articulate what he does for a living. Questions to ask yourself: Were the mama’s pregnant at the same time? You just find out the man you have been dating is living with his mom or in his sister’s basement.He drives an expensive, fast fancy car, wears a rolex and expensive jewelry, clothing and other accessories. He appears nice enough, but conveniently avoids answering personal questions about himself. Another scenario could be that he crashes with various friends or lives with a couple of women.
Dating a divorced man has many advantages, like being more practical, having realistic expectations, etc.Make sure that the guy you are dating is completely free of his previous marriage, or it can get very ugly. Reason for divorce Some people say that this equates to prying into his past life, but ignore them – this information is relevant to you.If it was something like abuse or infidelity on his part, then it’s a blaring red flag.During the 2 year relationship he says very sweet words, that we will be together one day, wants to spend time and get to know each other, he loves me, looking forward to me being his wife, more sure every day that we are going to be a couple, says I am perfect for him. We were talking on the phone for the first 3 months and then he never bothered to call anymore. Then after a few messages he just ghosts on me, says nothing.When I asked him the reason, he said there was not an opportune time. All during the relationship he would regularly disappear for 2-3 days at a time, come back and not say what he had been doing. During that time I was playing detective, he was sending me love images that two hearts are meant to be together, I love you more each day, stuff like that. Can he truly love me but just be doing all that for fun, since we don’t have sex due to the distance? During the time we did spend together, I felt a spiritual connection, like I knew him from somewhere before. I have not made any more contact and do not plan to. Done with Divorced Guy Dear Done with Divorced Guy First I’m going to agree with your assessment of this situation. I’m sure that hurts, but there’s no surprise – you were already on to his games.